39. Who You Were vs Who You Are Now
Who You Were vs Who You Are Now
Have you ever taken a moment to grieve the old version of yourself?
Not in a sad, stuck way… but in a way that truly honors her.
Because if your capacity has changed — whether from chronic illness, burnout, motherhood, getting older, or just life doing what life does — it can feel strange realizing you can’t do things the way you used to.
In this episode, I’m talking about that moment when you realize your old expectations no longer match your current capacity. I share what life looked like for me years ago when I could run hills, hike with my dog, dance all the time, and power through everything without thinking twice… and how things look different now.
But here’s the truth: the answer isn’t pushing harder. It’s updating your operating system. Because routines, habits, and systems expire just like anything else. And when your capacity changes, your systems need to evolve with it.
In This Episode
- Why it’s okay to grieve the old version of yourself
- What happens when your expectations don’t match your current capacity
- How chronic illness, aging, and responsibilities shift your bandwidth
- Why routines and habits eventually expire
- The importance of updating your “operating system” instead of pushing harder
- Why comparing yourself to what you see online will only drain your energy
Reflection Questions
Take a moment and think about this:
- Are you still expecting yourself to function like the old version of you?
- What routines or expectations might have expired in your life?
- Are you pushing yourself to exhaustion instead of redesigning your systems?
- What would change if you honored the capacity you actually have right now?
Just something to sit with.
Support From Michelle
And listen… if you’re in that season where things feel different and you’re trying to figure out how to adjust your routines, systems, and daily flow, you don’t have to navigate that alone.
The Life Systems Lounge is a calm space where you can get guidance, support, and real conversations about simplifying life when your capacity changes.
If you’re tired of your routines working for a while and then falling apart…
If you want your systems to evolve with your life…
If you want support without the pressure of calls or appointments…
The Lounge was built for moments exactly like this.
You’ll have a space to ask questions, adjust your systems, and connect with other women who understand what it’s like when life shifts.
Because around here, we don’t push through — we design around what’s real.
Timestamps
00:00 – Honoring the old version of yourself
00:47 – When your capacity starts to shrink
01:15 – Life before the shift
02:35 – Updating your operating system
04:22 – Why comparing yourself online drains your energy
05:33 – You’re not old… you’re seasoned
06:20 – Introducing the Life Systems Lounge
07:16 – How the community supports you
08:11 – Designing around what’s real
08:33 – Closing encouragement
✨ And as always… I’m wishing you a better today than yesterday. 🧡
